Resolved Question: Mother dearest and me.. :/?

9 July 2010, 2:10 pm

Okay.. So I'm 16 almost turning 17.. But my mother is smuthering me.. I just got my permit in January and have driven twice since then :/.. I am not allowed outside without asking ..( WE LIVE IN THE MIDDLE OF NO WHERE).. I'm allowed to go to the mall.. but I have to stay on the main street because I'm not allowed to cross streets alone.. I'm not allowed to go to my friends houses without supervision or if they only have a father.. or if she doesn't know the person.. let alone I don't even think about going to parties.. I'm not even allowed to go to my boyfriends when his mom is there.. and he can only come over here for a few hours.. and we have to stay downstairs and watch tv on the couch :/... She won't let me drive with people, yet she complains about driving me herself.. and I have been at summer for about 2 months and I have gone to the movies once with a family friend... and had my friend spend the night ONE time.. I apperciated both of those.. But it's kinda pathetic.. :[ I'm 16 for crying out loud.. 1 and 1/2 years and I am out of here.. -_-". We can't even be in the same room without butting heads.. :[ and I want to spend more time with my friends.. But everytime I ask to do something she gets upset at me.. tells me she is busy.. or she is too tired.. so I say okay.. and she tells me I am a selfish *beep* who does nothing but take.. She says I don't earn anything I get and I never help around the house.. But just today alone I have.. done five loads of laundry.. stripped all the beds sheets.. vaccumed.. the dishes.. I have cleaned vomit from the tolits.. cleaned blood off of sheets.. I have cleaned the guest room spotless after watching her realtives children for a week.. I have picked up the entire house.. took the trash out.. fed the dogs.. watered the plants.. and I think thats it.. and it's till not enough.. I have lost so many friends because they think I am always blowing them off.. and I just don't know what to do any more.. I never say the right thing.. If I argue it's a bad attitude.. I say okay.. it's a bad attitude.. If I say nothing at all I am being disrepectful for iqnoring her.. If I said your right sorry I asked she tells me I am playing games with her and I am just saying that so she will shut up.. It's like she doesn't even take the time to see what my attitude is like.. she just assumes it's bad.. :[ She makes me feel like a terrible daughter.. And I guess I am selfish for always wanting something.. But it's getting to the point where I am starting to literally hate her.. I know that is terrible.. Maybe not hate.. but it's certainly not liking. And it's sad because right now.. I look at 1 1/2 years till collage and I never want to come back :[.. How this all happened was I asked her if I could drive.. on our way to koals.. she told me no she had laundry.. I said okay.. she told me I had a bad attitude and she can't bring me any where without me wanting something :[ So I just didn't talk.. and said sorry so she told me I don't help her.. I don't earn things and I am disrespectful.. :/ She always tell me I need to respect her.. but I wish she would repect me too :(. I am tired of not having an opinion.. and wish she would just see I am a person too. * Sigh* And when I try talking to her about all this.. she tells me I am disrepecting her and claims I am arguing because I'm not agreeing when she tells me the problem is me not listening to her.. I have no idea what to do. This is all the back story.. Now.. for the questions.. How can I help her more? I feel like I am not doing enough... What else can I do around the house.. there doesn't seem like much but she says there is so much for me to do.. And when I ask her what she tells me she shouldn't have to tell me and I should just do it. What ever that means :/ How can I stop stepping on her feet? I don't want to give up relationship over her anymore.. But there is no balence.. She won't let me... and I hate asking for things because she makes me feel selfish.. So most of the time I just don't bother to ask her anymore... and just make an excuse to my friends.. And my friends are good friends.. but they grow tired of being blown off and I don't blame them.. I wouldn't want to be my friend either.. How do I show appreciation? I try to say thank you everytime she does something and have a great attitude.. But everytime I get back from doing something she finds a reason to yell at me.. and then later call me ungrateful because of it.. :[ And finally.. I want to have a realationship with my mommy.. :{ But it's almost impossible.. I want to be able to rely on her for things and tell her when I'm having a bad day or when I have a problem.. But I can't knowing that I will never live up to what she wants me to be.. How do I fix this relationship if I am the onl... Read More »

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